Remember that ad about the Army, and how they accomplished more
by 8 in the morning than most people got done all day? Well, the
folks in fatigues just might have a hard time keeping up with
some of this area's Super Moms: women who manage--not juggle,
but
manage, like Jimmy Carter liked to manage--jobs, kids, and long-
distance running."It's all about time management," says Debbie Margraff (44),
from Reston. "That and setting priorities."
Margraff should know. She has three kids, the oldest of whom is
14 and now her built-in babysitter. Only recently has Margraff
been able to leave the kids alone while she runs, which happens
to be at 5 in the morning, when the babysitter and his charges
are sound asleep.
"I sleep until 6 before running on weekends," she says. "Early
morning is the only time I'm not likely to be interrupted or
overruled."
After her run, Margraff heads to work at Comcast. Weekends,
well, we said she lives in Reston with young kids, so Margraff
spends a lot of time at soccer games and swim meets.
Because the kids needed to report an hour before game time,
Margraff took to running and biking while they warmed up. "And I
used to just read at the pool while the kids swam, but it
occurred to me that I could be doing a workout," she says. "So I
started swimming." And that, of course, led to triathlons.
Did we mention that Margraff is a single mom?
"Some of the other parents look at me like I'm a lunatic," she
admits. "And there are times when I feel guilty about doing
something so self-centered. I could be doing PTA or the like. So
I tend to volunteer a lot, helping with the swim team, being the
cookie mom, that kind of stuff. I'm definitely over-committed,
but you just do the best you can."
Margraff describes Anna Bradford, a mother of three boys and her
occasional early-morning training partner, as "the only woman
who is busier than me." Bradford is the president of Reston
Runners, a club of 900 strong (and fit).
But organizational compulsion is the least of Bradford's vices.
When she is not coordinating weekend runs for 120, she's
training for ultramarathons--Bradford has run the last seven JFK
50 milers. This woman does marathons as training runs.
Bradford is a hospital social worker at INOVA Fairfax. "I work
only 40 hours a week, so I've got plenty of time to run in the
morning," she says without irony. Bradford sometimes rides her
bike to work, the better to stay in triathlon shape.
Bradford's husband, a reluctant but consistent runner, and the
boys (ages 16, 14, and 11), understand that life is one long
race. "This running stuff started in 1989," Bradford says. "The
boys know all of our PRs and are totally proud. They understand
that this is what we do."
Patty Fulton (36), another single mom, is unique in that she has
long been one of the area's top runners. Fulton works at the
Department of Agriculture and logs most of her weekday miles
during lunchtime on the Mall and along the Potomac River.
"I used to feel guilty about training so much," Fulton
says. "But I'm convinced now that it makes me a better mom. Like
anyone else, if I miss my run, I get cranky."
Recently Fulton fed cereal to her two girls, ages 5 and 7,
before embarking on a 20 mile run on her treadmill. The girls
entertained themselves in the next room for the two and one-half
hours the workout took. "I think Alex [the youngest] was
impressed," Fulton said. "She said, 'Mommy, you ran from
breakfast until lunch!'"
Hilary Cairns and Kristin Pierce Barry are two more top runners
who trained through pregnancy and returned to racing while
hardly missing a beat. Cairns gave birth to her second child in
January and ran 37:40 for 10K two months later. Barry, a lawyer,
finished second in the D.C. Marathon, running 2:56:43 last March
less than a year after her first child.
But just as motherhood is not all about diapers, neither is
running all about the spoils. Sometimes it's about both. Ask
Maria Kozlowski, from Washington, who has 2-year-old twins and a
nine-month boy. While the twins made for a difficult pregnancy,
Kozlowski ran and raced until two weeks prior to the delivery of
her boy.
"I even won an award!" she says. "But nobody else was really
running in my age group." Last April, with plenty of competition
at the Boston Marathon, Kozlowski ran 3 hours 12 minutes, one
minute off her personal best.
Still smitten with the racing bug, but with three infants in
tow, Kozlowski and her running husband, Lance Crist, are forced
to be efficient with their training (not to mention the day-to-
day).
"I don't do any useless miles," Kozlowski says. On foot or
otherwise; she regularly runs to work at the World Bank, usually
tacking on a couple of extra miles to get in an honest workout.
On weekends, she and her husband swap parenting and training
duties. Kozlowski meets her Washington Running Club training
group for track work during the week and on Sunday mornings for
a long run.
"[Lance] is just great," she says. "He got up at 5:30 to run so
he could be back when I left to meet my group at 8."
Even when Crist is away, Kozlowski is loathe to miss a run--and
even gets in strength training, with her baby jogger built for
three.
"The kids like it for about 30 to 40 minutes, then they want to
get out," she says. "But I'm about done at that point; it's
quite a load."
Quite a load, indeed. One all should consider the next time we
complain about getting out for a run.